How I Work
My aim is to offer you a reflective, collaborative & reparative space with which to explore your problems. Your therapy may be short or long term – the length of therapy will depend on the difficulties that you are facing.
My approach is integrative, which means that I draw on different therapeutic approaches in order to work with your individual needs & as best to support you.
Attachment Theory particularly informs my work. This means that I take a relational and attachment informed way of working with people who come to see me. I recognise that early life experiences, relationships and the environment that we grow up in define & influence who we are and our current difficulties.
Taking this approach can help uncover the less conscious reasons for why and how we relate to people or why we feel stuck in present problems. It can allow old patterns to change, assist in the better management of feelings & help to stabilise symptoms. Importantly, it encourages change at a much deeper & meaningful level and in a long lasting way.
Some of our work may also look at how you believe you should be and how this impacts on your self-worth & how you relate to yourself internally – the conflict between “what I am” and “what I should”. As you start to accept yourself, you may re-connect with your strengths & start to feel more empowered.
Or, we may consider how your thoughts & feelings are also encouraging unhelpful behaviours and ways of relating to people. Challenging these & developing different ways of thinking will encourage more helpful & healthy behaviour.
I regard our counselling relationship as very important and central to our work together. It is very different to the type of one you will experience with friends, family & colleagues. It is secure, confidential & contained and the focus is on your experience of your problems. I will not give you advice, nor will I judge you or tell you what to do, but instead I will accept all your experiences & feelings as valid and work with you to make sense of them. Together we will work through what you feel is best for you and in doing so you may start to manage your life more affectively.
My aim is to support you in gaining the confidence and capacity to support yourself.